Systemic and Holistic Life Coaching

‘We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them’.
Albert Einstein

Although I am currently not offering standalone coaching sessions, the ‘coaching approach’ is still present in my work, whenever the need calls for it.

Holistic & Systemic Life Coaching a way of coaching that enables you to have a different relationship with your obstacles, and goals through hidden dimensions of inner images and unspoken statements. It helps you to receive a different perspective and from this a new course of possible actions arises.

Embodied experience plays a major role in the sessions. We connect Mind-Body-Heart to find the best possible solution for you. You are ‘thinking’ with our whole body, not just the mind. I integrate different modalities such as EFT, Systemic Constellations, NLP, Mindfulness, integral theory.

You discover and cultivate options and techniques for self-management, and communication. I assist you to develop strategies to manage everyday challenges and start new habits that will support you. You develop strategies to approach challenges from a holistic point of view. Rather than trying to control the outside circumstances, you’ll focus on your own reaction – Why am I reacting this way? – asking this question with curiosity, not judgment. In our sessions, I am holding a safe space for you to discover these resources of yours and how you can integrate them.

We can’t create something new until we acknowledge what it is that is holding us back. Another important step is being able to let go of – our expectations, a certain outcome… This puts extra and unnecessary pressure on our shoulders. As this process will bring to the surface the shadows that we’ve been trying to avoid, we need to practise compassion towards the self and others.

My approach

The holistic approach I practise, understands that we are individuals who are both systems of mind, body, and spirit but also part of a wider system of family, work, society, and beyond.

Coaching enables me to gently push people’s boundaries, experience challenges, and allow them to recognise behaviour patterns that don’t serve them anymore. While the holistic and systemic approach helps with exploring what we feel, why we might be feeling it, and how to cope with it, coaching helps with how to choose a different reaction in the future for similar triggers.

How?

I recognize that everyone is a part of multiple systems that are mutually influencing our life. In my coaching work, I use the systemic view that offers a unique way of approaching your obstacles. It helps you to see and to acknowledge what is. When we accept the situation, we have the possibility to do something about changing it.

We create a 3D representation of the challenges you would like to overcome. That allows you the see what was holding you back and what you need to do to take the next step. We connect Mind-Body-Heart.

Acceptance is not giving up, but acknowledging the situation.

When we are centred – Mind-Body-Heart are aligned, then we are able to reconnect with ourselves and our inner compass.

Just to name a few of the disciplines I integrate into my work:

Family/ Systemic constellations
Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP)
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)
Non-violent communication (NVC)
Thinking environment by Nancy Kline
Inner child work – different creative techniques to reconnect with your Inner child
basic hypnosis
mindfulness techniques such as meditation, creative visualization

In my sessions, I help you to/with*

transform your life with a holistic approach
assist you to acquire the right mindset and tools to face any obstacles coming your way
help with letting go of what doesn’t serve you anymore, so there is enough space for the ‘new’ to arrive
create abundance in every area of your life
practice self-love and self-respect
Mind-Body-Soul approach
low self-esteem
anxiety
lack of confidence
fear of public speaking
other forms of fear
destructive relationship patterns
others

* it isn’t limited to these issues only

What to expect after the session?

My aim is for you to be more aware of the old patterns you are working on transforming. Everyone experiences changes in a different way. The work is happening at the pace that is best suited to you. Be patient and compassionate with yourself.

We all have an inner knowing that knows exactly what to do. To let this inner knowing of ours shine, we need to trust it. Be empathetic, and compassionate toward yourself to become the person you need to be to experience a fulfilling life.

Changes need to be embraced not resisted in order to get the best out of them.

The first step is the willingness to make the necessary change(s). Remember:

“NOTHING CHANGES IF NOTHING CHANGES.”

“NOTHING CHANGES, UNLESS SOMETHING CHANGES.”

As ‘Life is 10% of what happens to you, and 90% of how you react to it’, and when we are aware of why we react the way we react, we are able to create a different experience. So life won’t happen to you but you will be creating the life that is supporting you.