‘If you don’t start somewhere, you’re gonna go nowhere.’
All day I have been putting off writing this post. There was always something more exciting or seemingly more important to do – tidying up my room, go out for a walk while the sun was out, cook, and of course, check Facebook, read interesting articles. Procrastination is part of our lives. We all do it!
Lately, I have found myself to do it less, though it is still part of my life. Procrastination is nothing else than our safety system, so to say. I look at it as something that wants to follow the good old pattern of leading your life. Meanwhile, your mind is envisioning some fantastic results. Though we, you, us, have to realise, that we can’t have a different result with the same mindset.
I set my eyes on a new horizon a few months ago. I established where I was at the time and decided what I wanted in my life to change. It was time to make conscious efforts as well. Basically, stop daydreaming and get your ass down to work!
I am sure you are familiar with the scenario. You see yourself where you want to be, but when it comes down to make some steps, you find yourself doing the same thing. – watching telly, scanning social media for what’s new is happening around the world, which world leader is doing what, all the problems around us.
What is the Amygdala?
When you procrastinate, your brain wants to stay in the well-known area as it doesn’t like changes and prefers the ‘century-old’ programmes we learnt as children. There is a part of your brain – amygdala that steps in when you want to do something new. The amygdala is the section of our brain that is responsible for detecting fear. It wants to protect us from the unknown.
When we start doing something new we are stepping into the unknown. It takes courage to do so. Our inner chatter starts trying to talk us out of the steps we are getting ready for. Well, this is what’s been going on with me for the past few months. I had the idea of starting a blog for more than a year, but never made concrete steps (or those massive steps). Yes, I was visualising having a blog and connecting to people via my writing. But visualising on its own is not enough. You have to take action in real life toward your dream. If you sit and wait around, you might end up waiting for all your life.
I’ve been telling myself that I need to wait for the perfect blog name – actually, this took me probably the longest, to come up with the name! – to have all the great design, social media, everything ready to vow the world!!
However, the more I looked at the looooooooooooooong list of things to do, the more I started doubting myself. Though whenever I told people about my plan, all feedback were positive, and supportive, as they could see my passion. Then I asked myself, what it is that is stopping me?
Obviously, I had the passion, but something was blocking me. My ‘amygdala’ was fully turned on to make sure that I don’t make a fool of myself and just carry on with my old program. I am staying safe. At this point, I had two choices: to give in and carry on with my old program even though it was making me unhappy – or didn’t feel the excitement. OR to embrace the unknown and try something new out.
The questions to ask
The question that makes us all doubt goes like this:
What if it isn’t going to work out? In real this question is a FEAR in disguise. How to eliminate it?
Ask the following question:
What if I never try?
It is easy to be critical – that’s what the first question invites you to do. Those who do, don’t have time to criticise. They are too busy creating and failing. Yes, failing. There is nothing wrong with it. Perfection doesn’t give you the space you need to improve yourself. Change your attitude towards getting things wrong. It is feedback. Feedback that shows you what you need to work on if you would like to carry on on your chosen path. Celebrate your mistakes, embrace them and be empathetic toward yourself. You have just opened the door to learn something new. And it is up to you whether you would like to enter this door or not. The choice is yours!
Don’t take my word for it. Try it to yourself. 😊
To sum it up:
- What is the role of procrastination
- Realise and accept that you are doing it too
- Ask the questions and give your honest answer
- Failing is a feedback. It helps you to grow.
Written by Petra J.
Date: April 2019